Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem.
Asalamu alaikum warahmatula wabarakatuha.
I apologise for the long silence but I will do that which is convenient and blame it on work, flu, hifdh lessons and oh lots of distraction on whatsapp but Alhamdullilah!
Imam Ibn Al Qayyim may Allah have mercy upon him said:
One of the Salaf encountered a man and the man became harsh with him and harmed him. He said to the man ‘Stop, let me enter my home and then I will come out back out.’ So he entered his home, prayed to Allah and repented to his Lord, then went back outside. The man asked him, ‘What did you do?’ He replied: ‘I repented to Allah from the sin that sent you against me.”
I came across the above piece of advice taken from the book ‘One Hundred Pieces of Advice from Ibn Al Qayyim’ shared by a sister Masha Allah and it resonated so well with me and thought despite the many excuses given, I will still find time to share it with you all.
In our day to day lives, we come in contact with many individuals either at work, school or even a passer by we meet in the streets or a random passenger on the bus. Sometimes, Masha Allah, I must say we come across the most amazing individuals who just make your day with something as little as a charitable smile.
However, not to blow my own horn but I like to think I am some how patient when dealing with people but obviously, we tend to have some that push our buttons really. A sisterly advice on dealing with others is to treat each other like the way we would like to be treated. We all sin, we all make mistakes and sometimes, all it takes is a simple correction on our part than retaliate with something harmful that might hurt the other person which can sometimes, scar them forever.
I must admit I encountered one of the worst situations recently and couldn’t think of anything comforting than imagining how it would have felt to sit with Rasoullulahصلي الله عليه وسلم and ask him how to deal with such situation but of course, I prayed to Allah who is Al Hakeem the all wise and poured my heart out in sujood.
Then I remember reading the story of the Salaf in the image above and did exactly what the Salaf did which was repent instead of arguing as I own up to the fact that I am very defensive in nature which is sometimes bad. Of course, this does in no way mean I blame myself for the wrong others have done or do. Trials we encounter every day does not necessarily mean that we are sinners but to look within and repent on our sins can, in fact, elevate us. Or, it could just mean that we might have done injustice to someone unknowingly thereby earning such treatment. (My reasoning…. could be wrong too but this is just a blog based on my personal opinions and experiences)
Treat each individual the way you will like to be treated as we all err and make mistakes on a daily basis. That was a lesson learnt. Insha Allah, if you are reading this post, let this be a reminder to you this week. He صلي الله عليه وسلم said:
“I have only been sent to complete good morals.” Narrated by Ahmad in al-Musnad (2/318) and classed as hasan by al-Albaani in al-Silsilah al-Saheehah(no. 45).
Let us all try and practice patience and kind treatment onto others especially with good words. Try and be nice to even the beggar on the street for perhaps one bad action in your character, might lead to harm done to you by others.
We all know the story of Prophet Yunus (Jonah) when he was in the belly of the whale and Allah saved him when he recited the following dua right? If you don’t, please grab yourself a copy of the Qur’an and have a read or just google it if you find it easier.
لَّا إِلَهَ إِلَّا أَنتَ سُبْحَانَكَ إِنِّي كُنتُ مِنَ الظَّالِمِينَ (21:87)
la ilaha illa anta subhanaka innee kuntu mina alththalimeena
“La ilaha illa Anta [none has the right to be worshipped but You (O Allah)], Glorified (and Exalted) are You [above all that (evil) they associate with You]. Truly, I have been of the wrong-doers.”
Al-Qur’an, 021.087 (Al-Anbiya [The Prophets])
The Prophet SAW said : ”No Muslim man supplicates with it for anything, except that Allah responds to him.”
[ Tirmidhi 3505 – Sahih ]
Insha Allah I pray you find the above post useful and as always, it was a reminder for me first but just had to share.
Barakallahu feekum and Asalamu 'alaikum Your Sister in Islam (Umm Yusuf / Mina)
Picture was taken by Hadi while in Hawaii 💕
‘One Hundred Pieces of Advice by Ibn Al Qayyim’