On Friday evening, I attended a talk on “Quranic healing of the heart”
Masha Allah as usual, the ladies section was packed and it’s always a great feeling seeing loads of other hijabis, people in jilbabs and niqabis all under one roof.
The topic was Ibaadur Rahman~ worshippers of Allah.
Do we know who these are? Alhamdullilah, my phone was fully charged so I managed to use my note app to write some few points to serve as a reminder for myself first and also to share with all of you.
In the Qur’an, Allah narrates the qualities of His worshippers in surah Al Furqan from ayah 63 to the end of the surah.
He describes them as:
🌹Those that walk on this earth with humility. This doesn’t mean looking down at the ground while walking or walking really slow but it means not looking down on others, being arrogant, showing haughtiness but those that show mercy to others. They are the ones who learn to speak only when it’s needed, hold their tongue when ignorant people speak to them, their words do not hurt others and they greet others.
They maintain their own dignity, not make others feel humiliated and not witness any bad gathering.
Note to self: walk away from bad gatherings and hold your tongue when ignorant people speak to you.
🌹 Those that are close to Ar- Rahman are those who stand in prayers to their Lord knowing it is not compulsory. (This can also include engaging in dhikr, reading Qur’an).
Note to self: Try and perform Qiyam Ul layl even if it is 30 minutes once a week.
🌹Those that are close to Ar Rahman make du’a to Allah SWT. They are conscious of where they are to go after death. They make du’a against Jahannam. They leave everything sinful for the sake of Allah. They do not insist on sins but fight all temptations for the sake of Allah by walking away from sin.
Note to self: Seek refuge from hell fire daily. One of my favourite daily du’a in salat is:
“Allahumma inni Aas Aluka ridaka wal jannah, wa aa’uzhu bika min sakhatika wan-nar”
“Oh Allah, we ask you to be pleased with us, reward us with paradise and we seek your refuge from your anger and the punishment of the fire”
🌹 True worshippers are not miserly and not spendthrifts. They spend on their families, spend in charity, spend on what is necessary but not on unnecessary items.
Note to self: “you have enough clothes. You do not need any more. Give more in charity”
🌹 True worshippers are those who do not call on any other God but Allah. They do not commit shirk which is the worst sin. Ibadur Rahmans also do not commit murder. They do not take the law into their own hands killing other individuals. The true worshippers also do not commit immorality. They don’t commit adultery nor watch pornography.
These are of the greatest sins but Allah also narrates to us in the surah that Ibadur Rahmans repent even if they fall in such sin and commit into goodness. Their evil deeds shall be converted into good deeds.
That is Ar Rahman showing his mercy as the most merciful.
He is Al Fattah the Great Judge and has no desire of punishing us except crimes for which we commit such as calling other than him.
🌹The true worshippers are not only concerned about themselves but are concerned about their whole families. They make du’a for their progeny. They do not however stop at making du’a but make effort to achieve righteousness.
Note to self : Du’a and hard work comes hand in hand and don’t pray for yourself only but pray for my whole family and the ummah at large.
I don’t have children yet but nothing wrong in praying for our unborn children right?
The du’as I also like reciting in salat for my unborn children and parents are:
“Rabbi hab-lii min ladunka dhurriyatan innaka samiud du’a”
“My lord, grant from me from yourself a good (pure) offspring. Indeed you are the all hearer of invocation”
“rabbi hab-lii minas saliheen”
“O my Lord! Grant me a righteous child”
“Rabbana ighfir lee waliwalidayya wali mumineena yow ma yaqoomul hisaab”
“Our Lord! Forgive me and my parents, and (all) the believers on the Day when the reckoning will be established.” [Quran: Surah Ibrahim, Verse 41]
🌹The true worshippers when given reminders, don’t ignore such reminders nor argue. They instead change their ways and not remain arrogant. They accept reminders.
Note to self: Accept correction. Know that perfection was the station of the prophets. However, there is a way of correcting people. The Prophet SAW always corrected others with good words and never put them into shame. Choose wise words when correcting others.
Do we have these traits? Do we belong to the category of people mentioned in this surah and can call ourselves Ibadur Rahman?
Well maybe not tick all the boxes but atleast some? If not, insha Allah let’s try our best and rectify our conditions. Let us do our best to be recognised by Allah as his special worshippers.
These are the group of people that will be rewarded with high lofty palaces in jannah knows as Ghurafaat and will be welcomed with a special greeting from the angels in jannah for the patience they bore and the goodness they have done in this world.
May Allah grant that to us. Ameen
That was the end of the talk. There was a question and answer session but due to time, only one question was answered.
The question was: “What is the halal way of approaching a girl you like”
In the Ustadh’s reply, he mentioned few points such as:
❤️All kinds of interactions happen between men and women BUT with principle.
❤️Respectful courtship in a dignified fashion is ok . Not too liberal.
❤️Don’t abuse the rights of women. Let them marry who they wish to marry. He mentioned the story of Prophet Musa and the two young girls in the land of Madyan after he fled from Banu Israel.
❤️If capability is there, no other barrier should be there .
❤️Men should earn a living. Be dignified. Earn a decent living as marriage is also a worldly decision.
❤️If a girl / boy decides to marry someone who recently took shahada there shouldn’t be speculations on if they took the shahada simply because of the marriage. Who decides what a correct shahada is apart from Allah ?
The Ustadh also shared the story of Usama ibn Zaid (RA) when he killed a man in war who moments before being struck down took the shahadah.
Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) sent us towards Al-Huruqa, and in the morning we attacked them and defeated them. I and an Ansari man followed a man from among them and when we took him over, he said, “La ilaha illal-Lah.” On hearing that, the Ansari man stopped, but I killed him by stabbing him with my spear. When we returned, the Prophet (ﷺ) came to know about that and he said, “O Usama! Did you kill him after he had said “La ilaha ilal-Lah?” I said, “But he said so only to save himself.” The Prophet (ﷺ) kept on repeating that so often that I wished I had not embraced Islam before that day.
❤️Understand that we are in a challenging time. Our children are accessible and if an opportunity is there for them to get married, give them advice, ultimate decision is theirs, them making a mistake is better than mistake they will make outside marriage. Everyone has temptations. Don’t be deluded!
May Allah give the husbands strength to be good husbands and grant the women ability to be righteous spouses who will be the coolness of their husbands’s eyes. Ameen
Barakallahu feekum and Asalamu 'alaikum Your Sister in Islam (Umm Yusuf / Mina)
Photo by my brother : Gunjur Masjid in The Gambia 🕌